Wednesday, December 21, 2005

i hate being tall...

There are 2 kinds of gas stations. There’s GhettoGas, where one purchases things with safety seals on them, such as 32 oz. Diet Snapple. And then there’s SuburbaGas, with an array of fresh fruit and organic coffee.
Okay. I still wouldn’t touch that fruit. But when there’s a line at Starbuck’s, I’ll willingly hit SuburbaGas for caffeine. Mornings at SuburbaGas are usually packed with a collection of cops and armored van drives, and at least once a week, I engage in conversation with Mohammed the cashier who asks me the same question every single time.
“Going to work?”
“Yes.”
This morning, however, as I approached the counter with my bucket of coffee, I found myself blocked by the gigantic lottery ticket man and his boxes of lottery tickets. He turned around and loudly screamed, “Hi honey! You’re tall! Are you six feet tall?”
Oh my god. Anyone who knows me knows that I hate being tall. It’s not my fault. When you’re 13 years old and 5’11”, the damage done cannot be reversed.
“Um…” I nervously stammered. “In my bare feet I’m 5’11”, thank you very much.”
“Well I’ve got three daughters!” He yelled. “All of ‘em over 6 feet!”
It was as if he were bragging about his prize cattle.
“You must be very proud.”
“They all play sports. You play volleyball? Basketball?”
“I used to. But I don’t anymore. I lack both skill and grace. I merely hunch.”
“Ha! You should be proud of your height! Look at those legs! You’re gorgeous!”
“Thank you. I hate being tall.”
“Well, you’re stupid.”
Like an 80 year old with osteoporosis, I scrunched down and bought my coffee, passing lottery giant popping his medication at the front door. Lamenting my freakishness, I walked into work and vented to my co-workers, pointing out that in addition to my being a complete medical oddity and constantly forced to pretend to like it, I’m often asked to reach things for the elderly in supermarkets.
"Oh, me too." Laughted Ben. "That happens all the time."
"Yeah, Ben. But you didn't spend 2 years in therapy just to muster the courage to wear heels..."

33 comments:

Miss Anthrope said...

There's a flip side to what you wrote about. I'm extrordinarily short: 4'10 to be exact. And I've always been the shortest one in the class... I have to wear heels just to appear semi-normal, and let me tell you, my knees aren't too thankful. I constantly got teased through school, and still do to a certain extent. I can never ever see anything if in a crowd, and people always assume I'm in high school or even middle school (I'm 23.) So yeah... I guess either way, too tall or too short, it sucks. What I wouldn't give to live in your shoes for a day though!

P.S. Nice insight to a tall person's world! :)

Anonymous said...

Beth,
I think it's time for the 5th grade worst day of your life story. It's height related and seasonally appropriate. XOXOMOM

rayray said...

short or tall, I love em all!
however, when your a GUY standing only 5'4", you tend to get passed by for the taller guys :(

Zeke said...

I think it's cool when a woman is tall..You can be soft, feminine, and cute... But you don't have the limitations that a lot of women have...It's like you were given a gift...your body kept getting stronger and stronger while they stayed shorter/weaker... that's Hot (or I think so, anyway)

So while you can be soft and cute...you can reach higher places than a lot of women..and compared to them, your body is like...filled to the BRIM with strength...stuff that they struggle with, and still cant lift, you can lift with ease...gotta like that..

I guess the key is just finding someone that digs whatever your characteristics are...whom you also happen to dig.

Anonymous said...

WOW your a fuckin giant!

Anonymous said...

Well it's a comfort to hear that there are other young people like me that are tall & hate their height. I have never properly measured myself as I am too scared but I roughly about 5'9 I reckon. I am also 13 years old. My best friend is quite short, well average really and whenever I go out with her I feel like a giant! But now I think about it it's not so bad. The only thing I don't really like about being tall is the fact that I can never wear heels! But anyway here's some good points of being tall from someone who used to be really insecure about it :

1. You look alot slimmer
2. You have longer legs
3. It will be easier to find nice guys as you can be certain that the one's that like you are genuine & nice and aren't shallow.
4. You could become a model more easily.

Plus, think of all the tall celebrities there are, like Paris Hilton, Tyra Banks, Claudia Schiffer & much much more.

Also alot of guys think tall women are very sexy & don't mind being shorter than them (these are the ones for keeps)!

But you should always love yourself for what you are x

Anonymous said...

I am also 5'11" and oddly I have had the same experiences as you. I hate them, hate them all!!! Damn people...they are so insensitive. It's okay to comment on someone's height because we are supposed to be happy about it..but would you ever dare go up to someone fat and say "wow, you are sooo fat, you know that?" or "you are so black!" No one would dare. But tall people are fair game. And then if you don't like your height you are automatically "stupid" like that guy said. We all have preferences with the way others look, so why is it so hard to believe that we would have preferences with our own looks? For me, I would prefer to be 5'6"...but NOOOO that didn't happen!!! Yeah, I'm not bitter at all....

Anonymous said...

i'm 5'11," and no matter how i try to think about it i hate it too. "how tall are you?" is a bad enough question, but i find "do you play volleyball" or "are you a model" to be even more insulting. what are volleyball players and models to the average man but sex objects? also, i like shorter guys. i guess all we can do is learn to love it somehow. personally, all i have ever wanted is not to be noticed for any aspect of my physical appearance, good or bad. off i go to buy some dark brown hair dye... i think men who hit on blondes tend to be the sleazier kind

briecheese1414 said...

I know exactly what you mean. I am 5'11" (actually 5'11" and 3/4 last time i let the doctor tell me how tall i was but that 3/4 of an inch doesn't count) Somehow there is a big difference between 5'11" and 6'. I havn't truly gotten comfortable with the fact of dating shorter guys. I know i probably will have to get used to it but so many people teased me for being tall and dating a guy who was if anything a quarter inch shorter than me that i just can't do it anymore. It makes finding guys difficult :( currently i am dateless to prom and dont know what to do. ill probably end up taking a guy who is shorter than me as friends and hopefully that might curb my fear... hopefully...

i wish all of you tall ladies out there luck! I feel your pain!

Zeke said...

To the 5'11 woman that likes shorter guys...

Thank God for you, woman!

They need to make more of you

Sophie Lou x said...

I Know How You Feel! I'm 5'12 And I'm 12! People Think I'm In Year 11 Or College And I'm Only In Year 7! I Get Teased Alot Because All My Friends Are Small. I Know People Would Kill To Be Tall But I Would Kill To Be Even A Little Shorter! I Wear Flats All The Time And Yet People Tell Me I'm Still Growing!

Anonymous said...

Hey, I'm a little over 6 feet and, like the rest of you, I really hate it. I wish people knew that calling someone tall can be really sensitive and insulting, especially for women.

One girl mentioned being young and still growing: there are things you can do if you're still growing. If you're on a path where it looks like you'll be taller than maybe 5'9", see a doctor: they can stunt your growth hormonally if you want.

Once your bones grow, they can't un-grow, so act now. If you're afraid you'll be taller than you want, don't delay another day: see a doctor & a shrink. Figure it out before your options disappear!

And actually, even if you're grown, there is a surgery you can have to take off a couple of inches. Basically, they cut out part of your leg bones—then it heals like two broken legs. Apparently you can go up to two or three inches before it starts to make you look disproportionate.

Anyway, I wish I could just say tall is beautiful and to cherish yourself. But we all have to find our own way, and it's not that easy.

Anonymous said...

Im am in the same boat. Im 14 and 5'8 or 5'9. im mom is 5'12 and im about 4 inches shorter. It suckss so bad because all the boys i like are either shorter or the exact same height. i want to look up at them and look cute and petite. but no i have to be a giant. Not to mention i am a twig and there are no girls built like me in my school, sure there are some tall ones. but not ones with chicken legs. they talk about how tall and thin i am all the time and hurts.
People tell me about how tall i am, and they'll ask if i eat-im like dude wtf? yeahh i eat all the time it seems like. I have stretched before and asked if it hurt? I walk down the hall and hate seeing over peoples heads. I stand out and i hate it

Eleanora said...

You should all be ashamed of yourselves, being so pathetic and self loathing just because you're tall.

Grow backbones!

Spots said...

Says the woman who googled, "Why do people hate tall women."
Fuck off, Elenora....

Anonymous said...

im 5'11 as well and im in college and i can NEVER find a guy thats shorter than me it sucks. I hate it and i get so sick of people only noticing my height its like as soon as they meet me their first comment isnt its nice to meet you its o my god your so tall!! and i get so tired of people telling me im tooo tall or to not wear heels becuase i dont need them fuck off why should i have shoe limitations just because im tall! just tonight someone came in my room and said i was too tall and i know he didn't mean to be rude but i think it is people just don't get how much it hurts me :(

Anonymous said...

I am 5'11 and and sixteen years old. I am constantly thinking about my height and how much I hate it. I would do anything to do 5'7. I wish i could look up at a guy, and the ones i can i dont like. =[

Anonymous said...

i am not going to judge and go off about how pretty people think i am..but you can be beautiful and tall. People tell me all the time i should do americas next top model. i am 5'11 which i wish i could just go down a couple inches. But i try to stay positive and think of all the gorgeous women men would die to have, tyra banks, taylor swift, adrianna lima.. tyra is 5'10 and taylor swift is 5'11 and adrianna is 5'10. and also try to think girls wear heels to be taller, this i wish i could be shorter for because i love heels, i look at them all the time and wish i could wear them =[ but then i look at pictures online and stuff of these gorgeous models who are perfect and the same height as me.. just think of the good things.

Anonymous said...

im about 5'11 and im 16. i really hate it and i feel so insecure. my mom tells me i need to just love how i am, but its so hard when i want to go to dances and im the one who has to wear flats, not the cute heels like all of my other friends. it makes me feel like im a giant, and im not attractive to any guys. i would do anything to be 5'7". its like the pretty tall, not the awkward tall. however, i try to look at the supermodels and actresses who are that tall but somehow it doesnt help. i know i cant change but it hinders my confidence a lot.

Anonymous said...

You have a beautiful height and you should take advantage of it!Im sure plenty of shorter girls would love to be your height!I'm 5'4 and i feel too tall actually:( i feel very insecure at times because the community i live in are mostly small Asian people xp

Anonymous said...

Im 5'11 also, and Im 15. I have been this height since the age you are, and so I can safely say I know how you feel. I used to hate it, and it would riun my day when people would say, "youre SO tall!" I never had any self confidence until the past year when I finally decided to just love myself for who I am. There are so many guys who love tall women, and one day youll learn to love it. I hate when people ask you if you play volleyball or basketball, as if tall people are only made for sports. I never ask short people if they are good at limbo! =) Basically, dont waste time hating yourself. Love yourself! You are beautiful just as you are.

Alyssa Bentley said...

I'm 28, female and officially (as of last measurement) 6' .25". I am... quite tall. :)

Benefits: My housemates are both about 5'2", so I get all the tall cupboards and they have to fight for the low ones.

Being naturally stronger than most women, I have successfully fought off three guys who tried to force me to have "sexual relations" with them.

Lost in the crowd? nah. I can see I need to go right over there to get to where I need to go.

I actually look FABULOUS in heels. I don't care HOW much taller it makes me.

DISADVANTAGES:

with a 33" inseam, it is nearly impossible for me to find pants the right length. Same goes for shirts with sleeves long enough for me. I tend to just go with short sleeves most of the time, and buy men's coats. You'd be surprised how gender-neutral most coats are.

I've dated many a short man. The most difficult part of it is that the guys who want to hold your hand as you walk down the street try to hold it at the angle that would be appropriate for a short woman. The first few times you need to fight to be comfortable. The smart ones learn to indicate that they want to hold hands, and let you make it work. Hugging, also, is interesting, because you aren't going to be around the guy's ribcage or waist, but rather you will have the "dominant" position of over his shoulders. Again, the first couple of times it's awkward, but the smart ones deal with it.

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I honestly don't hate it. Aside from the fact that most men are shorter than me and I'm almost desperately attracted to men 6'3" and above, that's really the only true downside. Other things are minor annoyances that are overshadowed by all the real benefits. Just remember, a shorter man will be more distracted by your boobs being in his face than anything else.

Anonymous said...

I recently turned 15 and I'm 5'11, but almost reaching 6 feet. I hate being tall so much, and i know exactly how all of you feel. People say, "oh look on the bright side, you could model" or things like that. But the thing is, I'm not a pretty graceful kind of tall, I'm awkward. I've been referred to as many things, including a dinosaur. I'm not overweight, but I'm not stick skinny like all the models are. When i was younger my mom would always tell me that the guys will grow and eventually become taller then me, and they've started too. But they still won't like me because they always think of me as super tall, even though they're taller then me now. I really wish that people knew how much it bothers us when they point out to us everyday how tall we are. As if walking down the halls and towering over everyone wasn't a reminder enough. I'm trying to get comfortable with my height, but it's a very hard thing to do, and i bet lots of you know what I mean.

Anonymous said...

So I frequently get asked the how tall are you questions I'm a freshmen... Age fifteen I love to sing and have a food time i am really good at sports varsity cross country volleyball basketball and track this year I'm six foot three inches WITHOUT shoes so with shoes I'm roughly six foot four I think there are some advantages and disadvantages one of the many dis advantages I hate is that I go to a very small school 1A and none of the guys like to date girls taller than them and when your fifteen in highschool it sucks to be single especially when all of my othe friends have boyfriends there is one guy who is cute and taller than me we have been friends forever and I like him.. Bit he likes short girls another disadvantage is that I want to become a model actress and or singer but more people look at me for sports than for that not o be conceded but I know I'm pretty I'm skinny and I have great grades and a good voice I just want to get discovered if anyone can think of anything my email is olivia76578@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

this is to everyone who thinks they want to be tall:
my family makes fun of me on a daily basis for being tall. i'm probably taller than all of them. being tall makes it harder for girls to date because NO GUY WANTS TO BE WITH A GIRL WHO IS TALLER THAN HIM (OR TALLER THAN ALMOST EVERYONE IN HER SCHOOL, FOR THAT MATTER).
i understand exactly how you feel... i'm a freshmen and people think i'm a junior or something because i'm so tall. the first thing anyone ever says to me when they meet me is "wow. you're tall" which basically means "holy crap, you're a freak!" i hate it. i have a slightly crooked spine from hunching over so much in a fruitless attempt to look normal. i look stupid in shorts. i never wear heels, though i wish i could. it's hard to find a crush when ALL THE DECENT GUYS ARE SHORTER THAN YOU. so think twice before ou even consider wishing to be tall, because it's not fun. AT ALL.

Anonymous said...

I know what you mean I HATE my height.I folled people into thinking I love it when it fact I'm always crying and wishing I was shorter but I know I cant:(I just pray to god he sends a tall guy for me but appartenly it hasent:(I can't change my height ill just learn to live with it but if I could go down to 5 foot I would do it in a hearbeat!

Anonymous said...

hi there,
i know what it feels like. seriously, i do. i'm also 13 and 6'1''. i hate it when people point it out, say that i'm lucky, an usually iim really ungraceful and i cant do a lot of things that girls my age can. not to mention the fact that i tower over nearly every boy my age i meet, and that people make fun of me for it. but one thing i've learnt is that if you hunch down and just pretend your not tall will just make everything worse. now instead of being ashamed, i stand tall and when people say i'm lucky, i say thank you, even though on that inside i want to be normal so bad.i really think you should do the same.
lots of love, aneesha

Anonymous said...

I know exactly how all of you feel. I'm 15 and I'm 5"7, and I desperately wish to be short. All of my friends are short and petite and talk about how much they love it, and I'm just like the odd one out. I look at short girls and envy them so much. The main reason why I hate it is because of the guys. The ones who are taller than me like SHORT girls, not tall girls. I don't want to date a short guy; personal preferences. Id do anything to be short..,.

Anonymous said...

I just turned 14 and Im 5'11...any suggestions on how to cope?

Anonymous said...

Omg I'm 5'10 and hate it people always say oh your tall and a lot of guys be like your cute but I wish you were shorter trust me I do to its not fun a lot of guys consider it a turn off and I always think that being tall makes me unnactractive idk y oh and I love heels as well but only wear flats

Anonymous said...

16 and 6' 2" I hate going to dances, I've stopped going because they're so uncomfortable when you're basically the tallest on there. Never had a boyfriend cause in a small town most boys are self centered jerks. My best friend is a boy and he's never told me how tall I am. And yes I do play basketball and volleyball but why should it matter. When people tell me I'm tall I say well youre short do you play minigolf? I've told people I love my height but in reality I hate it and wish I could be just like everyone else!

Anonymous said...

I am 14 and the last time I checked I was 5'6 I've been avoiding seeing how tall I am now. My height really depresses me. I'm taller than all the females in my family and half the males. I'm tired of wishing and crying to be 5' 5'1 I hate when short girls complain about their height or wish to be tall you don't know what its like. To constantly be asked if I play basketball or if I drink a lot of milk I hate my height I have enough problems and flaws WITHOUT BEING A FREAKIN GIANT! I reaalllllllyyyyyyyyyyyy want to be 5' I;d be able to wear heels, bye bye flats.. I would be happy:) & I know 5'6 isn't that bad but it is if your still growing. And your in waaaayyy more awkward situations when your tall. Like for instance meeting a friends parents and being taller than both of them. *sigh*

Anonymous said...

Wish I had some words of wisdom on how to embrace your height but I don't..
I am 44 years old 5ft 11 1/2 and build like a Mack truck.

Shopping sucks because I have such a hard time finding cloths that fit. I can forget about cute shoes with heels. I have desk job because I hate to stand and tower above the rest. I truly believe I did the world a favor by not having children so I wouldn't have my daughter go through what I had to.